本周五的每月教工大会上,我们的学术校长Mr. Oriko分享了从学校员工参与的学校SWOT分析中收集的信息。我们的许多老师表达了他们的意见并进行了很好的讨论。学校纪律政策是其中一个主题。我在会议上与老师分享了我的一些见解。

 

我把更多的反思写在这里。

 

纪律是教导学生自我控制,自信,责任和规则的积极方法,重点是明确对学生的期望和允许做什么。它也包括及时捕捉他们的良好行为,并加以鼓励,它还包括教师以身示范所期望的良好行为。

 

惩罚的目的是通过使用外部控制或专制纪律来强制遵守规则。虽然可以有效地阻止了当下的不端行为,但惩罚对增加学生的责任感几乎没有作用,对学生侮辱性的惩罚更会对学生的心理造成极大伤害。

 

学校应该在学生手册中明确阐明学校的纪律政策,这一点非常重要。但更重要的是,在实施之前,所有的规则和期望都有清楚的解释和全校师生的认同。所有规则条例必须合理,可行,对我们的学生有帮助。
 
对于学校和学生而言,如果我们关注的是负面惩罚而不是积极正面的行为引导,可能是灾难性的。比如专注于罕见的个案而不是常见的违纪问题,专注于告诉学生不要做而不是向他们展示什么是应该做的。
 
比如是否应该穿校服,这是在许多学校有褒有贬,有争议的问题。领科有严格的统一校服政策。我们坚信校服会改善学校的校风,校服会增加群体中衣服的辨别度,有利于学生的安全,统一校服让学生不再关注奇装异服。校服帮助营造学校精神,一种认同感和社区感。事实上许多专家认为,当所有学生身上都穿着统一校服时,他们会有更强的团队心态。
 
我们的一位外教老师给他的学生们上了一堂课——“我们为什么要穿校服?”。我认为相对于简单惩罚不穿校服的学生,这种做法更能帮助学生理解学校规定的意义,更愿意去执行。
 
以下问题建议老师们在评估一些违纪场景时问问自己,无论是面对有暴力倾向的行为,或者仅仅是常见课堂开小差行为:
学生是否知道故意违纪?
学生违反了什么规则?
学生的违纪是否影响班级或别人?
什么最能有助于解决问题?
 
执行纪律的基本信念是,通过反思和实践希望学生做得更好,引导学生做得更好。学生希望做得更好,而惩罚背后的结果是,学生可能只是因为害怕惩罚,会设法避免惩罚而做得更好。


当学生违纪时,他们可能已经感觉很糟了,我们的任务不是让他们感觉更糟,而是帮助他们下次作出更好的选择。


“当孩子违反规则时,我们的目标永远不是让他们感到 '糟糕' 或失败,尽管事实上他们可能感觉很糟糕。我们的目标首先是帮助他们恢复自我控制和自尊。当我观察到一个孩子扮演欺凌者的角色,或偷偷逃避学习,或者对同学老师出言不逊时,这并不是一幅自我控制和自尊的画面。这是一种痛苦的迹象,也是寻求帮助的信号。正面积极的纪律的使用促使人们尊重规则和执行规则的人。“ ——摘自一位经验丰富的教育工作者

 

对学生严格要求甚至严厉都没错,关键是学生要认可老师的严厉是为了他们好,是出于爱和对他们的关心在乎。


This past Friday afternoon we had our monthly staff meeting. Mr. Oriko shared the information gathered from our school wide SWOT analysis. Many of our teachers voiced their opinions and had a good discussion. School discipline policies were among one of the topics. I shared some of my insights with our teachers at the meeting.

 

I have a little more reflections.

 

Discipline is a positive method of teaching students self-control, confidence, responsibility, and rules. The focus is on what students are expected and allowed to do. It includes catching them being good and encouraging appropriate behavior. It also includes teachers modeling appropriate behavior.

 

The goal of punishment is to enforce compliance with the rules by using external controls or authoritarian discipline. While effective in stopping the misbehavior of the moment, punishment does little to increase student responsibility. Any punishment which embarrasses or humiliates students will badly damage students self esteem.


It’s very important that a school should have clearly stated policies in a student hand book. But what’s more important is that all the rules and expectations be explained and agreed upon before the implementation. All the rules must be reasonable, feasible and helpful for our students.


It could be disastrous to school and the students that we focus on negative punishments instead of positive behavior reinforcement, focus on rare cases instead of commonly observed issues, focus on telling students not to do instead of showing them what are the right things to do.


For instance, the pros and cons of school uniforms is a debate in many international schools. Ulink has strict uniform policy. We strongly believe that school uniforms improve the climate of a school; Uniforms add measures of safety in identical dress. Uniforms take the competition out of dress. There is a sense of identity and community shared through school spirit. Many experts believe that when the entire student body is dressed in uniforms, they develop a stronger team mentality.


One of our international teachers gave a lesson to his students about “Why should we wear school uniforms?”. I believe it helps reinforce our school uniform policy more than just assigning a punishment for not wearing them.


Here are a few questions teachers might ask themselves when trying to assess a situation whether it’s being physically aggressive or simply an off task classroom behavior:

What are the developmental issues at work here?
Is it clear to the student what is expected?

What rule is being broken?
What problem is the behavior creating?
What will help to solve the problem?


The belief underlying the use of discipline consequences is that with reflection and practice students will want to do better, whereas the belief behind punishment is that students will do better only because they fear punishment and will seek to avoid it.


When students misbehave, chances are they already feel bad. Our job is not to make them feel worse but to help them choose a better course of action the next time.


“Our goal, when children break rules, is never to make them feel ‘bad’ or defeated, although they may, in fact, feel bad. Our goal is first to help them recover self-control and self-respect. When I observe a child acting the part of the bully, or sneaking out of a job, or putting down a classmate or teacher, it is not a picture of self-control and self-respect. It is a sign of distress and a signal for help. Something needs to stop. The use of behavior reinforcement urges respect for the rules and the people they are designed to guide.” –from an experienced educator

 

It’s necessary to be strict or tough with students, the key is that students believe your being tough is for their own goodness, is out of love and care for them.