【校长随笔Principal’s Page】纪律 VS 惩罚 Discipline VS Punishment
“当孩子违反规则时，我们的目标永远不是让他们感到 '糟糕' 或失败，尽管事实上他们可能感觉很糟糕。我们的目标首先是帮助他们恢复自我控制和自尊。当我观察到一个孩子扮演欺凌者的角色，或偷偷逃避学习，或者对同学老师出言不逊时，这并不是一幅自我控制和自尊的画面。这是一种痛苦的迹象，也是寻求帮助的信号。正面积极的纪律的使用促使人们尊重规则和执行规则的人。“ ——摘自一位经验丰富的教育工作者
This past Friday afternoon we had our monthly staff meeting. Mr. Oriko shared the information gathered from our school wide SWOT analysis. Many of our teachers voiced their opinions and had a good discussion. School discipline policies were among one of the topics. I shared some of my insights with our teachers at the meeting.
I have a little more reflections.
Discipline is a positive method of teaching students self-control, confidence, responsibility, and rules. The focus is on what students are expected and allowed to do. It includes catching them being good and encouraging appropriate behavior. It also includes teachers modeling appropriate behavior.
The goal of punishment is to enforce compliance with the rules by using external controls or authoritarian discipline. While effective in stopping the misbehavior of the moment, punishment does little to increase student responsibility. Any punishment which embarrasses or humiliates students will badly damage students self esteem.
It’s very important that a school should have clearly stated policies in a student hand book. But what’s more important is that all the rules and expectations be explained and agreed upon before the implementation. All the rules must be reasonable, feasible and helpful for our students.
It could be disastrous to school and the students that we focus on negative punishments instead of positive behavior reinforcement, focus on rare cases instead of commonly observed issues, focus on telling students not to do instead of showing them what are the right things to do.
For instance, the pros and cons of school uniforms is a debate in many international schools. Ulink has strict uniform policy. We strongly believe that school uniforms improve the climate of a school; Uniforms add measures of safety in identical dress. Uniforms take the competition out of dress. There is a sense of identity and community shared through school spirit. Many experts believe that when the entire student body is dressed in uniforms, they develop a stronger team mentality.
One of our international teachers gave a lesson to his students about “Why should we wear school uniforms?”. I believe it helps reinforce our school uniform policy more than just assigning a punishment for not wearing them.
Here are a few questions teachers might ask themselves when trying to assess a situation whether it’s being physically aggressive or simply an off task classroom behavior:
What are the developmental issues at work here?
Is it clear to the student what is expected?
What rule is being broken?
What problem is the behavior creating?
What will help to solve the problem?
The belief underlying the use of discipline consequences is that with reflection and practice students will want to do better, whereas the belief behind punishment is that students will do better only because they fear punishment and will seek to avoid it.
When students misbehave, chances are they already feel bad. Our job is not to make them feel worse but to help them choose a better course of action the next time.
“Our goal, when children break rules, is never to make them feel ‘bad’ or defeated, although they may, in fact, feel bad. Our goal is first to help them recover self-control and self-respect. When I observe a child acting the part of the bully, or sneaking out of a job, or putting down a classmate or teacher, it is not a picture of self-control and self-respect. It is a sign of distress and a signal for help. Something needs to stop. The use of behavior reinforcement urges respect for the rules and the people they are designed to guide.” –from an experienced educator
It’s necessary to be strict or tough with students, the key is that students believe your being tough is for their own goodness, is out of love and care for them.